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Yesterday, I shared thoughts from the pre-con labs.  Today, I want to focus on what God spoke to me during the D6 Conference on Thursday and Friday. D6 always does a great job reminding us about the importance of parents passing on faith to their children.  I will continue to prayerfully determine how we can best do this at Hesston MB. I noticed a strong theme of grace at this year's conference.  Tied in with grace was the importance of our identity in Christ.  For those who know me, I have been teaching often on this topic of identity and grace.  I will continue to be led by the Spirit to share the power that comes in relationship with Jesus Christ.  It is not about our strength, but instead moving from head to heart to hands. Marriage is key in the area of family ministry.  As couples, we must invest in the relationship. We need to learn best how to deal with our conflict and realize we have an Enemy who hates marriage and will do whatever he ca...

Last week, I was in Louisville for the D6 Conference.  On Wednesday, the day is filled with labs and few main stage speakers.  Here are a few take-aways from Wednesday: As churches, we must continue to disciple no matter what culture or statistics say.  How our churches disciple fathers is crucial in the faith development of our kids?  I must continue to seek the best way to empower dads to pass on their faith.  D6 Dads is a good start, but more is needed. Reconciliation is essential both inside and outside the church.  What example am I setting for my children and for the watching world?  God has called us to reconciliation.  Are we letting our emotions get in the way of our ministry of reconciliation? For too long in the church, we have kept behavior in check by warning of dangers of the road.  We need to instead focus on the goodness and greatness of the meadow.  How can I help my children and others understand the blessings a...

Don't give up on our young people. Keep praying. Keep trusting that God is working beyond what we can see and imagine. Prodigals have a way of coming home. (Robert Morgan) Activity for Christ does not equal intimacy with Christ.  You can do.  But first you must be. (Dave Stone) So many of our decisions in church are based on pragmatism rather than the Bible. (Rob Rienow) We are not always fighting about reality, but instead our perception. Every fight can be attributed to a perceived threat or perceived neglect. (Les & Leslie Parrott) Your marriage takes place on a battlefield not a romantic balcony. The Enemy hates marriage. (Todd Wagner) USC Researchers found that a close relationship with a parent, especially a dad, was biggest predictor of passing on faith. (Ed Stetzer) My father was a moral compass and a lighthouse.  (James Dobson) Biblical orthodoxy is about what we know.  Grace is how we come across.  Grace should describe what we are. (...

We had the great privilege to have Shane & Shane lead us in worship at the D6 Conference in Louisville this past week.  One of the songs we sang has continued to come to mind on the plane and even today.  I decided to share it with you today.  Enjoy "That's How You Forgive."

I had a great lunch at SmashBurger with Jared.  Now, back for afternoon session with Robert Morgan. As he was writing a book on parenting, his thesis was Deuteronomy 6 as the seminal passage on raising children. Sometimes we learn more from our children than they do from us. Psalm 121; 2 Samuel 14:14-words of comfort during difficult season in parenting L15 Parenting-Luke 15-Parable of the Prodigal Son Jesus is making one point in Luke 15-we should celebrate when anyone makes a change for Christ in their lives The older brother is the true prodigal in the story.  He was the one the Lord was most concerned about.  A prayer for the prodigal, "Lord, bring them back to their senses." The Lord turned the grief cycle into a grace cycle. Grace cycle Pain Prayer -James 5:16-Best verse on prayer in Bible. I could alter situation through praying Scripture. Patience -Time is on our side in the area of prodigals because of process of maturation-Romans 12:19 Pe...

After our morning break, we heard from Dave Stone. Kids can bring the worst out in parents and leaders. Psalm 127:4-5-Kid needs to be sharpened, straightened, aimed, released "Three Gifts Every Child Needs"   Value- We don't ascribe value to anyone but ourselves.  We need to make certain we have a concern for the church tomorrow or we won't have power in church today.  Every night my parents would pray for me and I would fall asleep not wondering if God would use me but instead how God will use me. We attach value as we use people's names.   Extend Grace To One Another Help others know you want to get involved in their life. People are messy. We must extend grace. Because Jesus extends grace to me, I must extend grace to others. We show grace because we need grace. We must be on the lookout for people we can show grace to. God will put people in your path.  Will we show grace to them? We understand God's grace.  We understand showing ot...

Our first speakers for Friday morning were Les and Leslie Parrott. www.marriagementoring.com How many of you have ever had a fight? Every couple has a story. Round 1-Why We Fight What do you fight about?   We can fight about anything and everything. Romans 12:18-favorite verse about conflict We are not always fighting about reality, but instead our perception. Every fight can be attributed to perceived threat or perceived neglect. Perceived Threat-critical, judgmental, controlling, demanding, attacking Perceived Neglect-uncaring, uncommitted, neglectful, selfish, disengaged  Men and women are different Goal of Conversations: Men-Report Talk; Women-Rapport Talk Round 2-How to Fight a Good Fight The Conflict Card-Available on their app Sharing Withholds (can be positive or negative)-Each couple shares three withholds One positive-respond with only two words-"thank you" One negative-respond with only two words-"thank you" One positive...

Impression without expression leads to depression. When God's people show up, there should be an impression. How can we leave a lasting impression? 3 Institutions ordained by God: Family, Church, Government Purpose of government-to prosecute evil and protect innoncence. Purpose of marriage-covenantal love.  The church has a love view of marriage. Marriage is a big deal because it forms a family. Marriage is a big deal because He loves us. Marriage is a picture of God on earth. The best picture of Trinity is marriage.  To best explain Trinity, you must have Equality, Unity, Diversity Headship is your role not your rank. God restores all things.  Marriage is where we model God's love for a fallen world. Church attenders don't change a thing. Disciples do. Pastors: Your job is not to get them to come to you, but instead to come to Jesus. Love is not an adjective about how you feel. Love is a verb. 4 Things You Can Do To H...

Bad news motivates people to act. The stats make good ad copy, but simply are not true. Stats for Young Americans: 32% are religious; 32% are spiritual, 3 in 10 are Nones Study from USC (followed 358 Californian families 1970-2005) to be released soon: Jews, Evangelicals, Mormons, and Nones are best at passing on their religion to their children. 74% of married couples who were both Evangelicals also had kids who were Evangelicals 57% of Evangelicals in interfaith marriage had kids who were Evangelicals USC Researchers found that a close relationship with a parent, especially a dad, was biggest predictor of passing on faith.  Nones-14% in 1970 and 57% in 2005 had parents who had been a None. Secularism is growing. From the book from Lost and Found Beliefs, view of church, spirituality, view of outreach of Age 20-29 compared with those 30 are older Younger age group were more favorable in all these areas. Lifeway research of Church dropouts When combined, the f...

Rodney Cox How do you deal with differences in your marriage? I thought it was a job to change my spouse. Only by the grace of God are we together today. We communicate if you want to belong, you need to be more like me. That is not God's plan. God's plan is for our differences to complete us not defeat us. Leneita Fix I have 4 kids who are adolescents which makes us a youth group. I began to have a broken heart for kids from the inner city. God thinks he's funny. I began to meet parents and families who are run down and a little bit broken.  As I invited them to dinner, I found parents who were filled with shame.  I thought I was the hero of the story.  The family was broken before it came to suburbs, city, or rural areas.  God's plan for the family is to be whole. I separated the churched from the unchurched and believed these families needed me. I wasn't asking the families what they needed. I thought I was better than them. I removed myself as...

Skit Guys gave us great laughs talking about their understanding of D6 which is "Designate 6" people to impress our kids.  It was a humorous way to think about role of parents in life of kids. Timothy Smith What is our family identity?  Who do we want our kids to be?  So, we started to plan. Do they have a plan for generational discipleship? Cookie cutters work good for cookies, but don't work on the hearts of our kids.We need a plan for generational discipleship. We must give people small wins in discipling their kids. He shared his family faith plan which incorporates senses and times of day.  This is followed by a family time experience. Lydia Randall Busyness. I'm tired?  Are you? We don't say fine any more, we instead say "busy." We wear our busyness as a badge of honor. Busyness is killing our hearts. Most of our families at Lake Pointe will give us two time slots. Faith Path-includes path as well as tools  

The afternoon session began with several speakers sharing briefly on a practical topic. Mark Holmen Deuteronomy 6:1-12 Our choices not only affect us but it will also affect multiple generations. If you follow God's way, it will go well for us. The only way to true wellness is the one true God. Are we in love with God or are we just doing church? First thing that will impress others is our love. I believe our problems in Christianity is not what is happening at church, but instead what is not happening at home. What is your intentional strategy to making the home the primary place where faith is developed? Mike Trimble My goal was not to have a talk. My goal was to begin a lifelong discussion. Luke 2:52-Jesus grew in wisdom and stature & in favor with God & men. I wanted to raise godly kids not good kids.  I also wanted to talk about troubles of the teen years. Five broad issues we discussed on bike ride: physical, emotional, mental, s...

What legacy are you going to leave?  When God speaks to you, you know it. Be careful with what you tell God you will or will not do. Saying "no" to God is a dangerous thing to do. Many of the OT patriarchs said "no" to God.  I learned to pray before I learned to talk.  I imitated the sounds as my parents did their devotions. When I was 4, as I was listening to my dad preach, I went forward to receive Christ. This was the highlight of my life. It is a dangerous thing for a young man to be too successful too quickly. My father was a moral compass and a lighthouse.  There is nothing more important than the gospel of Jesus Christ. The culture is at war with your children for their hearts and minds.  It is also at war with your families. Dobson said this to his son Ryan after Pistol Pete died while playing basketball with him. "I want you to know this. When I die, remember this, I care about what you accomplish in life and how you use your talents...

The solution is not slicker programs, but what happens at home. God's Love is best nurtured through spiritually thriving families. Family is a domestic church. Church is a gathering of domestic churches. God has not caused us to raise safe Christian kids, but instead strong ones. Unfortunately, many church programs enable us  The gospel is best illustrated through churches and homes that reflect God's heart. Churches that are strong on truth, but short on grace are not teaching truth. God's heart of grace must be how people feel the truth coming at them. Amos 5:21-24 (The Message) Grace makes people nervous.  Grace makes pastors nervous.  Why? They misunderstand grace. Discipline and correction are a form of grace. Law and truth are easy to measure.  Grace is hard to measure.   Biblical orthodoxy is about what we know.  Grace is how we come across.  Grace should describe what we are. God love is best transferred through ...

The story of and glory of the church became more important than the story and glory of Jesus Christ. "I don't want to build a museum, I want to be part of a movement." Spiritual fruit equals spiritual maturity.  Spiritual maturity equals biblical manhood. Galatians 5 Are we using methods that are ineffective? Paul's argument is there is something more powerful than rules. How Men Grow Spiritually Fruit grows holistically     Not separable traits     There is a difference between the fruit of your personality and the fruit of the Spirit.     What book should I buy on biblical manhood?  The Bible Fruit grows internally You cannot legislate inner character Law cannot do anything about the source of sin.  Law can discourage.  Law can deal with actions of sin, but cannot deal with root. Only the Spirit can change the heart. Most of the time we will use fear or pride to change behavior. How do I ...

Bad Stats:       Christians and non-Christians divorce at same rate       Christians and tippers       Christians and Disenfranchised Youth       The church is dying Why do we love bad stats?       Our brains are wired to be on the lookout for danger       Bad news motivates people to act       Sell books Bad stats don't solve problems. Bad stats lead to panic. What are some real stats?       General growth--Mainlines are decreasing; Evangelicals are increasing       Age 18-29--Mainlines went from 25 to 5%; Evangelicals are stable at 25% About half of Americans (44%) will change faiths before they are 22.        Most from mainlines-decline in 30% in 30 years The "Nones" are growing.  The behavior has not changed, but their identification has.       32% are religious       32% are spiritual (not using...

Acts 1:8 "To infinity and beyond" What is the best community outreach?      The one that works in your community!      The one that fits your church's mission!      The one God has placed on your Pastor's, Leadership Team and your heart! The #1 Key Component to Creative Community Outreach Prayer planning not event planning         Touched Lives First Impression of outreach ministry will bring families back to your church OR not          Changed Lives  Keep the Main thing the Main Thing Planning       It takes TIME       It takes a good TEAM       Keep things Fresh              Don't do the same thing over and over-be creative. Life changes-keep things fresh & relevant! Promote       Create awareness early       Use all channels ...

Joshua 1:8-Meditate on it day and night.  "Sound a lion makes when it consumes it prey."  We need to consume God's Word. Nobody wants to hear stories that are still in process.  We are not exempt from worthless storylines.   There's nothing you can do to take yourself out of the game. Principles apply to all storylines no matter how dark. God's storyline-Reconciliation, Redemption, Restoration, Rescue, Repair Conflict is like cancer.  It eats away at relationships. Sulhah -covenantal table of reconciliation-person who was hurt takes initiative and offers something to say "I no longer hold this against you."  Examples of Suhlah from Genesis to Revelation:       Jacob & Laban       Joseph & Brothers       Father & Prodigal Son       Peter & Jesus       Revelation 3:20       Jesus & Lord's Supper Not defined by what I have done, but instead freed up to...

Images in parenting to learn from: Cow Leaning on fence. Daughter was like cow, Dad like fence. Daughter pushing against boundary of fence. Dad instead of talking about the bad in the road shared that "Life in pasture better than in the road." Dog dragging back two legs.- "You were created for more than the way your living your life." As a family, talk about what God is doing.  We will not give God excuses. Circles -First circle-perfect shalom of God before Fall; Second circle-Circle over line & circle below line-after the Fall; Third Circles-Two intersecting circle-almond shape eye-kingdom of heaven on earth-We need to live with a foot in each circle (Heaven & Earth) Our Family is like a Tree -Shade for others so that we can better share Christ       When the Lord tells you to do something, we don't say NO.       Prayer Beth prays before she speaks, "Lord, make me truthful, but not impressive."       The mayor gave the key...

He knew he was a sinner, but he had never heard the grace of God. Do you believe in the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ?   For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes: first to the Jew, then to the Gentile. (Romans 1:16 NIV) Have we lost the urgency to impress the gospel? We must preach the Word strategically .  We preach at them, but are they getting it?  Ask, Listen, Teach.  Affirm their honesty, open the Word to deal with their questions. We also must teach the Word prayerfully.   May they learn how to pray from us.  Are you interceding? I thought intercessors were either over 80 or for crazy people.   I do not come to pray boldly in faith often enough. We must preach the Word collectively. preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching. For the time is coming w...